It’s time to continue with F-E-L-L-O-W-S-H-I-P, our 10 letter acronym.

Previously we covered F (Fear of the Lord), E (Endurance) L (Love), L (Light of Glory), O (One Thing), W (Worthy) and S (Speech).

Let’s now explore the next letter…


Take My yoke . . . and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart. (Mt. 11:29) Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus. (Phil. 2:3–5)

First, let me define what humility is NOT…

Humility is not being shy. It’s not being nice and polite, and it’s not being poor. Actually, I know several (shy, nice polite, poor) people that are full of arrogance and pride.

So, humility is not connected to having or not having money. And it’s not defined by good manners or people skills. You might be “diplomatic” or an excellent negotiator (like most politicians) and still be walking in pride.

Also, humility is not letting people abuse you (at will), putting you down and doing all kinds of evil things to you—Jesus did not die until it was His time to die—nobody spit on His face before that.

Actually, He confronted the pharisees several times (calling them snakes). He violently cleaned up the temple with a whip (Jn. 2:13-16). And never ceased to be the ultimate meek and humble Man (while acting like that).

In short, the common understanding and “appearance of humility” is NOT humility.

Humility starts by knowing who you are in Christ. Knowing who you are, where you come from and where you are going…

Like Jesus…

“Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God” —John 13:3

And because He knew His identity—where He was coming from, and where He was going—He took a towel and washed his disciples feet (John 13:1-17).

Humility is choosing to be a servant…

Not for the “looks” or for the praise of man. But because we are filled with the love of God and truly desire to serve people (like Jesus).

But the apostle Paul really pushed the line…

An Extraordinary Way to Live

How can you and I “esteem others BETTER than ourselves” and look for other people’s interest, not only our own?

That’s what Paul told the Philippians (Phil. 2:3–5), and it’s great material for preaching… but who is really living this way?

Who is really “giving” without expecting nothing in return?
Who is sowing without expecting a harvest?

You see, most human relationships are based on ROI (return on investment). “You scratch my back and I scratch yours. Do this for me and I’ll do that”

Even friendships are based on “mutual benefits,” and when those benefits disappear most friendships expire.

But since I’m daring to write like this… you might be wondering… am I an example of humility?

No, I’m not. I wish I was, but I’m still learning from Jesus (to be meek and humble). And I haven’t quite got it yet!

But guess what? I haven’t met others who are an example of humility either…

OK, probably one or two (in my entire life).

Sadly, most people in leadership (including most apostles, prophets and pastors I’ve ever met), are only pursuing their own interests…

And it’s normal, every one has to focus on their own thing, their own mandate, calling and organization…

But aren’t we all playing for the same team?

Truth is, leaders rarely esteem others as “superior to themselves”…

And (with a few exceptions), most remain friendly and interested in people, for as long as they can control, or extract some kind of “benefit” from the relationship…

But if we are truly Kingdom minded…

Who cares if after spending 10 years mentoring a person, the Lord moves that person to work with a ministry I don’t like?

Who cares if another leader enjoys the fruit of my labors?

That person was not loyal to me… right?

Because there is only ONE Shepherd and ONE Kingdom… right?

Ouch… sorry… someone has to say it (or write about it).

And I’m not the exception…

I have been guilty of that PRIDE countless times. You can be sure that my book—My Humility and How I Got It—is not coming anytime soon (:

So, let me ask you, is it possible to live this way?

Is it possible to truly be meek and humble?

Jesus said it was… if we let Him teach us…

“Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Mt. 11:29 NLT).

Obviously, we all need help with this… right?

Let’s ask the Lord to teach us how to BE humble as He is.

Here’s a sample Prayer

“Jesus, teach me how to walk in Your yoke of humility and meekness. Grant me the grace to learn your “lowliness of heart.” Show me how to truly esteem others better than myself, and transform my attitudes, speech and actions. That I would genuinely care for the interest of others and not only for my own. In Jesus Name, Amen”

Is this helping you or not?

Let me know below…


  1. victoria July 5, 2015 at 10:19 pm - Reply

    thank you very helpful.

  2. Adenike July 10, 2015 at 2:21 pm - Reply

    Very insightful reading. I was helped.

  3. Adenike July 10, 2015 at 2:22 pm - Reply

    Very insightful reading. I was helped

  4. Maria September 4, 2015 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    This has been very helpful. I got behind in reading and noticed that I haven’t received any emails since Aug. 3 so I don’t have all of the letters of the “FELLOWSHIP” acronym. Can the last two be resent?

    • Pablo Perez September 23, 2015 at 10:56 pm - Reply

      Hope you got what you were missing Maria – blessings (:

  5. Maria October 4, 2015 at 12:02 pm - Reply

    I have been waiting but have not received those last two. 🙁 This is has been very helpful and I’d love to have the last two letters. 🙂

  6. MARIA ALBERTINA CARMO October 12, 2015 at 2:40 pm - Reply

    Dear Pablo, once more I thank you for this teaching, realy the humility is a rare virtue and only Jesus can teach us to be humble and have meekeness of heart,So we must learn with Jesus and decide to do what we learn.
    Thanks and God bless you powerfully
    Pastor Albertina Carmo

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